This of course spins off of the Gay Marriage in San Francisco thread.
The question is this: What do people want from a civil marriage?
In many religions, the definition of marriage is very clear - not subject to debate. If you want to get married according to your faith - you follow along with the rules of your faith. The payoff there is presumably that you are living in accord with the dictates of your belief, perhaps you may believe in the mediation of God in your marriage, gain the benefit of counselling from your spiritual institution...
But a civil marriage is a whole other matter. The debate over "gay marriage" or any other begins to make me question the whole thing. I don't really get what people want out of a civil marriage - or why this is such a big issue. Clearly it is intensely personal for many - and even most who believe in a religious ceremony for marriage won't let that religious ceremony suffice. Rather - they want a civil marriage as well. Why? What do they hope to gain?
Edited by Handmaiden07, 13 February 2004 - 01:38 PM.