Handmaiden07, on Mar 19 2004, 02:32 PM, said:
Sunsport speaks up for himself well. But he doesn't fight (not to mention that he's smaller and younger than all of his classmates), and he does tell the teacher when he has to. But there are days when I wish I could just say to him "slam your fist into his face - that will end the bullying." But I don't, and I can't because there is no structure supporting the idea of "self-defense" in the schools.
Most of my bullying was from grades four until six. My dad gave me excellent advice: "they're not going to listen to you or their teachers or the principal, so fight back." I did. I got a black eye and a bloody nose, but I didn't get bullied after that. Bullies are not rational creatures, and will not listen to reason. I don't regret what I did, not an iota.
So yeah, my dad gave me the advice that you don't want to give. And when the principal called my dad in for a talk, my dad feigned a, "Well, that doesn't sound like Julian. I'll certainly have a talk with him." When we got him, I got a smile, and "good job." I haven't fought since (not outside martial arts classes, at least). There were times in high school when I was tempted, grade nine being worse for bullying for me than any other time, but that's the age when they start suspending you for stuff like that. Pity.