I was talking on chat with someone the other night, and they believe that a teenager should have to get consent from their parents to have an abortion. While I see some points they make, every time I think about it I see other reasons against it, and the more I see red.
They talked about if their were complications with the abortion, the teeanger would end up in the hospital, and their parents would have to pay for that. What if they don't want to pay for the medical bill, and therefor wouldn't have wanted to consent to an abortion. Or they wouldn't want to have consented because they could possible die from the complications?
If you look at it from a cost perspective, what about the costs of any pregnacy complications, the stay at the hospital while in labour, or complications in that. What if the teeanger needs a cesarian section? That is major surgery. There could be fatal complications with that. Whats the cost of rearing, or helping to rear a child? And most of what I mentioned are health risks to the child to, especially if they are early teens or preteens (in that case, some parents would *want* their child to have an abortion). So emotionally its a hard decision as well, your child's health is on the line. So either way, whether you have an abortion, or go with the pregnancy, there are possible fatal complications in either direction.
And if you believe your child irresponsible, and therefor unwilling/unable to raise a child and you don't want to do it, should you be able to force an abortion on them?
What about the effects of a forced pregnancy or abortion on the teeanger?
Should parents be allowed to 'control' their teenagers body? Wasn't that why women got to the right to a legal abortion in the first place? Yes, they are not adults. Parents aren't allowed to sexually or physically abuse their children, so as long as its not 'something' bad by the general consensus its ok?
I'll give those against me something to use in their defense
Parents are allowed to force, or even refuse in cases, medical treatment for their children under reasons for their physical health for forcing treatment and for spiritual health (religious reasons) for refusing it. In some cases of refusing treatment for their children the state steps in.
However, the medical treatment isn't 100 % guarenteed to work for any illness, and most have possible complications/bad side effects of their own. And of course, the severity/seriousness of each is different with each illness/condition and course of medical treatment. And this is also true of both abortion and pregnancy.
They said that in the case where one party feels the other is being unreasonable it can be brought to family court. Then its got to be done in a timely manner 3 months usually being the latest most places will let an abortion be done (unless advised by a doctor for other reasons).
Also, you might say the teeanger has to face the music, but some parents would not just flip, they could do anything from becoming violent, to throwing their child out to worse. As much as you might say they are in the minority, I don't mean to sound racist, but I live in a very multi-cultural area, and there are *some* people of some groups that, if they found out their daughter had sex outside of marriage, their daughter would be lucky if they only got kicked out or a marriage immediately arranged for them. Here, its against the law to reveal the sex of a child to its parents because of the number, upon learning the it was a girl, who would have an abortion.
The other day, in the news, I learned about one man, who after learning his daughter who was in college was *dating* a man of a *different race*, and he waited for them and ran them both over.... Conservative people from various backgrounds would be seeing tonnes of red if they learned their teeange daughter was pregnant. Either knowing their child had an abortion or even just the knowlegde they are pregnant, for a radical few, could be signing their death warrent (at worse of course).
If this happened, I think we'd see a lot more home done blotched abortions.
And some teenagers wouldn't go to their parents for other reasons.
My mother, when she was 15/16, when to her doctor and said "This conversation is confidential, right? Your the doctor, I'm the patient" kind of thing, and asked her pediatrition (hey, he was her doctor for better or worse : ) and asked for birth control. Mom says he shallowed a couple times during that doctors visit
People who I've talked to in my life that disagree, when mom tells them her story, say "You were responsible". She should be given exception to any law asking for consent because she was responsible. (She still got pregnant as a teeanger... but that was later). Because you can't prove condom use, they seem to think you at least have to prove you're responsible/rational and go to the doctor and *talk* about it, and most likely have to go on birth control (because you can't prove you use most other types of birth control). How do you makes rules to protect not only those responsible, but those who made a mistake and have rabid parents? Is it reasonable that a teeanger who is responsible not have to ask their parent's consent because they at least looked into their options before hand, and most likely a pregnancy is a failure of their birth control?
I'm just replused at the idea of anyone being able to force me to have an abortion/go through a pregnancy against my will. I think a persons body should more or less be their own.
Well, if you got to this point, thanks I'm sure there are some points I've forgotten, though I've tried to include them all. I'm looking forward to hearing your opinions for or against. And if you are pro-life and this whole subject riles you, sorry and I hope you can see some of the points I'm making. How much room their is for pro-life in here, I'm not sure, as this is not about pro-life or pro-choice quite. At least not the same in how it applies to legal adults. There is still a choice here, but it is put in the hands of the parents or legal guardians. If you feel you can discuss this, from your pro-life point of view, or any other, feel free
Edited by Certifiably Cait, 26 August 2012 - 03:35 PM.