Digital Man, on Apr 21 2005, 05:37 PM, said:
I understand what you're saying, HM. You do bring up some valid points-but then again, this is also the kind of talk that eventually resulted in things like a high school for homosexual kids.
So, I have mixed feelings.
I don't find the arguments similar. But even if it were similar, statistically speaking, homosexual kids are a minority of the kids, as would be homosexual teachers, if the jobs were valued properly (another discussion entirely). So the problem is minimized if not removed by having same-sex schools.
BTW-you being a parent HM, I'm curious to know what you think of my comments on the dresses girls wear for Catholic schools. I'd much prefer pants.
Well, when I was pregnant, I had to think about this, because I didn't know if my baby was going to be a boy or a girl. I was Muslim at the time, and knew that there was no way my daughter would go to school wearing something like that. I considered putting my child in Islamic school, briefly, both because of not wanting my son around girls dressed that way, or not wanting my daughter being ostracized for not dressing that way... but there was no question in my mind that no daughter of mine was going to dress that way. School uniform or no - my plan, if it had ever come to that, was to have my daughter wear the boys' pants, or wear pants under the required skirt.
Interestingly, I remember growing up when the mini-skirt was in style, and my mother bought one for me. I remember being mortified going to school and finding out that boys considered it great fun to look up girl's skirts. My girlfriends told me the secret of wearing shorts under the skirt and that became policy from then on.
Digital Man, on Apr 21 2005, 06:01 PM, said:
HM aptly outlined the hormonal changes in boys.
The less advertising, the better.
Yeah. Girls have hormones too. And there is such a thing as teen pregnancy...
sierraleone, on Apr 21 2005, 06:16 PM, said:
You make it sound like the guys wouldn't be getting into these situations if it wasn't for those wiley women!
Is this subconsious and unintentional? Because I don't see you doing that intentionally
If it came across this way, I apologize. Certainly not my intent. My intent with that post was to react against stereotype. In this thread even, we express surprise that it is female teachers doing this, and of course we all know that male teachers are going to be the predatory ones in any such situation. In fact, the sexual issues on both sides, male/female, student/teacher are quite blurry when the ages are so close, with youth past puberty and beginning adulthood, and teachers just out of teenagerhood.
Now me, Even at 17/18, I wasn't attracted to those boys
nor was I attracted to older ones, or younger ones, I had zero interest in males. Sure I could appreciate their form once in a while, but people on the whole didn't really impress me
And I ain't a flirt.... of course maybe I just wasn't attractive enough to extend any powers
maybe if I had been dropped dead gorgeous I would have been doing the same thing
LOL! Yeah, I know not all, or even most girls are like this. Nor are most boys inclined to come on to their teachers. But it happens. I mean, I'm 37, and I still on occasion find young boys attempting to "hit" on me. I sometimes wonder what on earth could be going through their heads, but mostly I think its just a bit of bravado on their part, coupled with raging hormones. And, I was indeed one of those flirty girls in high school, so I know all about that.