Cheile, on Dec 10 2007, 04:35 AM, said:
there ARE plenty of stupid teen girls out there who want a baby and/or try to plan for one because they think it will make them special/independent/etc. that's not ALL of them, of course--but there IS a percentage of them who do deliberately get knocked up.
It's not always stupidity, sometimes it's very, very sad. I knew a girl who, at 16, wanted a baby. She had one, was very happy about it, so really since she was a good mum, the dad was just as active as her even though he was young too, I suppose it should have been fine. It was just that she said she wanted a baby because she hadn't achieved anything in her life, and was desperate to make some sort of achievement. Do I think that makes her a bad mother? No, she was actually quite a good one. Do I think she did it to be special
? No. I just think the type of society we have today, that can make a 16-year-old
girl feel so desperate for self-worth because she hasn't achieved
anything yet, is quite awful, but it's the way it is. I hope she's happy, and I think she'll raise her child very well, but I wish she hadn't been so brought down that she'd had to have a baby for some form of self-worth.
because around here and in most countries, a legal adult is eighteen. NOT a teenager. teenagers = minors. teenagers = not responsible.
Well, if the legal age for sex where you are is 18, then no one should have sex before then. Here's it's 16. OTOH: Not much you can do to stop two 15-year-olds having sex. As far as I've noticed (and it hasn't been that long) the age of consent only increases the stigma to do it earlier.
Edited by Pixiedust, 10 December 2007 - 01:37 AM.