Certifiably Cait, on Jun 4 2009, 06:38 PM, said:
Rhea, on Jun 4 2009, 04:26 PM, said:
All your remarks tell me is that you've been lucky enough so far not to experience a catastrophic accident or illness. It can happen to anybody.
I agree. Although I don't think that lack of experience is something we can wish on people. You know what I mean?
Healthy people don't understand what an illness or accident can do to your life. My sister is healthy as a horse and has never been in an accident. She has absolutely no comprehension regarding what my life has been [given one catastrophic accident [hit by a drunk driving a truck] and cancer]. She wants to be empathetic, but ultimately she only has her own experiences to inform her opinions. She has no idea what it is like to lose a job due to illness, and have your insurance cancelled mid-chemotherapy. I wish she understood better, but then again, I certainly wouldn't wish the experience on anyone.
I was hit by a drunk driver on the Golden Gate bridge in 1974. My shoulders and spine were damaged (this was back in the days before shoulder harnesses, I was driving a VW bug at a sedate pace and the other guy was driving a Cadillac at 85 mph). I was lucky not to be a smear on the pavement.
In my 50's, the old damage has caused massive problems. I had shoulder surgery and two 10-hour back surgeries within a 4-year period. I managed to scrape by during the first two (the shoulder surgery was no biggie) but by the third one I was, simply, broke from a combination of medical bills and time missed from work. That's what precipitated my bankruptcy. And while I can have another surgery to fix further deterioation to the same shoulder and biceps tendon, there is absolutely nothing more than can be done for my spine. I'm losing function in my legs, and have tremors and numbness in both feet and hands, and live in excruciating pain. I can no longer work at a job I absolutely loved with all my heart. All because some idiot drunk decided to celebrate St. Paddy's day.
As you know better than most, sometimes the unexpected happens in life,as it has to both of us.
What I was reacting to was Palisade's mini-sermon about living within your means, as though that has anything to do with people drowning in medical bills.
The guy ahead of me in bankruptcy court was a man who makes far too much money, was living beyond his means, didn't pay his child support, and then expected the court to bail him out - without going into details, the judge was dumbfounded and pissed off, and the guy never did get the point. THAT'S what irks me, not folks who get buried in medical bills. It's people like that who need to live within their means, but the article wasn't about that 40%.
Edited by Rhea, 04 June 2009 - 10:01 PM.