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#81 Elara

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Posted 04 March 2013 - 02:55 PM

View PostJuststoppingBy, on 04 March 2013 - 08:18 AM, said:

hi all, while doing a search online found your discussion and hope to jump in if possible.. my husband is a retired military vet, has PSTD, nightmares, generally has a good temper and very loving except that about every so often he has a meltdown and just loses it, i think frustration from work etc builds up .. he started seeing a psych and got put on meds and they do mellow him out somewhat, but he still has a meltdown every so often, usually directed at me, and we have a big blowout, he won't talk for days etc.. Anyway, he has been wanting to get guns for a while now, we went and took the gun course and it was there that they talked about the high suicide rate for people owning guns, so now i am starting to panic a little (thus the online search etc)   He does not hunt, he loves nature etc,he doesn't even fish anymore so the guns are just because he likes them and he would enjoy doing target shooting again and having them for personal protection. I am nervous, of course I think of the worst. He did comtemplate suicide a few times over the years he has said, even before we knew each other, so knowing this as well as his sometimes explosive behaviour, is really making me worry.  I think I am going to bring it up tonight but am very worried it is going to result in a really horrible fight. Any ideas or feedback on any of this? It is very easy to get guns here in our area, they leave it up to the person applying to be honest and he did not check off he has PSTD or depression etc. so they won't even know he has it so I'm sure he will likely get it.. help please!

The first thing is, you need to see someone experienced working with veterans with PTSD. Don't ask on boards, or medical sites, your best help is someone that can also speak to him, as well as get him more help, or better help. Don't talk to him alone.
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#82 Lin731

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Posted 05 March 2013 - 07:45 PM

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hi all, while doing a search online found your discussion and hope to jump in if possible.. my husband is a retired military vet, has PSTD, nightmares, generally has a good temper and very loving except that about every so often he has a meltdown and just loses it, i think frustration from work etc builds up .. he started seeing a psych and got put on meds and they do mellow him out somewhat, but he still has a meltdown every so often, usually directed at me, and we have a big blowout, he won't talk for days etc.. Anyway, he has been wanting to get guns for a while now, we went and took the gun course and it was there that they talked about the high suicide rate for people owning guns, so now i am starting to panic a little (thus the online search etc)   He does not hunt, he loves nature etc,he doesn't even fish anymore so the guns are just because he likes them and he would enjoy doing target shooting again and having them for personal protection. I am nervous, of course I think of the worst. He did comtemplate suicide a few times over the years he has said, even before we knew each other, so knowing this as well as his sometimes explosive behaviour, is really making me worry.  I think I am going to bring it up tonight but am very worried it is going to result in a really horrible fight. Any ideas or feedback on any of this? It is very easy to get guns here in our area, they leave it up to the person applying to be honest and he did not check off he has PSTD or depression etc. so they won't even know he has it so I'm sure he will likely get it.. help please!



First off, I wish you nothing but the best with this very difficult situation. That you both can find the help you need to get through all this. I do agree with Elara, you need advice, counseling and help from a doctor that specialises in PTSD. None of us here are qualified to advise you on something this serious but I'm sure we'll be here if you need someone to talk to. You should find someone that specialises in PTSD and let them know the situation (the good, the bad and the ugly of it) and go from there. Likewise, I wouldn't confront him on this issue alone or before you've discussed it with his current counselor and if they lack expertise in this area, I'd consult one who has that background for a second opinion.
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#83 Nonny

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Posted 06 March 2013 - 01:54 PM

View PostJuststoppingBy, on 04 March 2013 - 08:18 AM, said:

hi all, while doing a search online found your discussion and hope to jump in if possible.. my husband is a retired military vet, has PSTD, nightmares, generally has a good temper and very loving except that about every so often he has a meltdown and just loses it, i think frustration from work etc builds up .. he started seeing a psych and got put on meds and they do mellow him out somewhat, but he still has a meltdown every so often, usually directed at me, and we have a big blowout, he won't talk for days etc.. Anyway, he has been wanting to get guns for a while now, we went and took the gun course and it was there that they talked about the high suicide rate for people owning guns, so now i am starting to panic a little (thus the online search etc)   He does not hunt, he loves nature etc,he doesn't even fish anymore so the guns are just because he likes them and he would enjoy doing target shooting again and having them for personal protection. I am nervous, of course I think of the worst. He did comtemplate suicide a few times over the years he has said, even before we knew each other, so knowing this as well as his sometimes explosive behaviour, is really making me worry.  I think I am going to bring it up tonight but am very worried it is going to result in a really horrible fight. Any ideas or feedback on any of this? It is very easy to get guns here in our area, they leave it up to the person applying to be honest and he did not check off he has PSTD or depression etc. so they won't even know he has it so I'm sure he will likely get it.. help please!

I wish I could help.  I'm a veteran myself  and I am 100% service-connected with PTSD, but not from combat.  I have been in therapy at my VA hospital for years, and am fortunate to have good care.  I am not medicated.  Since I am single and live alone, it is easy for me to spend the time I need to spend alone.  That said, I have gained skills at dealing with stuff, but it took a long time and a lot of help.  I happened to attend a veterans meeting last night and heard Paula Caplan discuss her book, When Johnny and Jane Come Marching Home: How All of Us Can Help Veterans, and her listening project.  I was impressed on my account, but this is no solution for your immediate situation.

http://www.paulajcaplan.net/
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