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#1 RommieSG


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Posted 15 February 2010 - 03:29 PM

I am unfortunately the bearer of very sad news. Shalamar, one of our own, passed away on January 17th, 2010.

She had found out back in September that she was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. Not only rare, but unique in that she was supposedly the first documented case with a certain other condition.

This is what she wrote in December of 09 on one of her boards...


The lungs have the doc's dancing -As extensive research on their part says that...guess what...I'm unique. They can't find a single doccumented case of someone with Peutz Jegher having this sort of cancer.

You see the far and away the vast majority of those with this cancer are young, non smoking, women of oriental extraction.

I am not young, and though I have always had an extreme affinity for all things Japanese, I don't have a single oriental gene in my body to the best of my knowledge - I'm 5'11", red haired, brown eyes, very fair skinned and caucasian.

But I have Bronchioloalveolar carcinoma (BAC ) - a rare form of non small cell lung cancer, a subset of adenocarcinoma. So like with the Peutz Jegher I get to be a lab rat - though they didn't out and out say so. (But the looks in their eyes and comments like "this may help research find a link " - )

The good thing is that they have a fairly painless chemotherapy for it, that works pretty good they say - and the fact that the side effects are very mild are what has made me willing to give it a try -it's a pill that one takes daily for 30 days at a time. Side effects are relatively mild. You get a red rash on you face - acne ( at my age! ) and might have a very minor bit of nausea and loose bowls ( but which reponds easily to Immodium )

I get a base line CT and chest Xray on the 22nd, start the pills on the 23rd.

The one huge drawback - and it makes me glad that I am on the county's indigent system ( medicare through SSD has not kicked in yet ) - one 30 day supply costs close to 5,000 dollars - yeah 5 K ( shudders )

Then we see if it worked - but the survival prognosis ( the standard 5 year thing ) is over all not very good. Surgery would have been the best option - that has an incredible 5 and then 10 year survival rate, but as both lungs are involved with a large number of lesions thats not going to happen.

So while this may slow it down substancially, ( if it works ) it isn't going to be a majic bullet - and I'm cool with that.

I hadn't seen her here on Ex Isle, or anywhere else for about a month so I got curious and checked a board that I had set up for her. That's when I found this, posted by one of her longtime friends dated 1/14/2010.


My name is Shadow, and I have been a friend (and gaming buddy) of Shal's for 20 years. She asked me to let y'all know that she is in the hospital, and the prognosis is not good. They don't know yet when she will be going home, and she's not expected to make it to 2011.

In typical Shal fashion she wants to apologize for leaving any RPs hanging.

Of course, I was worried about my dear friend, so I e-mailed Shadow for any information as to her condition...where she was staying...anything...and today I was met with the worse news possible...


I'm sorry to be the bearer of sad tidings.  Shal passed on Jan. 17.  She had been released from the hospital the previous afternoon, at her request; she wanted to go home.  She crashed that night.

Most of you know how close Shal and I were back in the hey-day of Slipstream and Ex Isle. That was no put-on. I truly loved her, and will always love her. She holds a special place in my heart, and she always will. That special place merely has new meaning now. She once sent me a stuffed pillow tiger...that I have slept with ever since...and shall continue to sleep with til my dying day.

This is something she was prepared for. She accepted her fate. If you don't believe me, listen to her own words.


My comment about it all - I will survive for as long as I am supposed to. The Universe just likes to keep me humble.

Blessed Be, Shalamar Thorskald. You will be sorely missed. The universe will not be the same place without you. May the Goddess be with you in all the empty places you must walk.
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Posted 15 February 2010 - 03:32 PM

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Rommie}}}}}}}}}}}}}} :(

RIP Shal - finally a release from pain and illness - you will be missed by many.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 03:37 PM

So sorry to hear this.  Rommie and all of Shal's friends, my thoughts are with you.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 03:53 PM

Sad to hear this, she was kind and I enjoyed reading her posts.  I'll miss her.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 03:54 PM

Rest in Peace, in the arms of the goddess Shalamar.

Blessed be.
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Posted 15 February 2010 - 03:59 PM

So sorry to hear this. RIP.
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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:01 PM

I remember Shal chewing me out a few times. I always deserved it, too. ;)

RIP, dear.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:14 PM

:cry: :cry:

Rest in peace, Shalamar.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:16 PM

I am deeply saddened to see her go.  She was the first person here to give me support on my book project.  And one of the most entertaining people to read the posts of.  Not to mention my Vice Presidential running mate in the 2008 elections.

Requiescat in Pace Shalamar.

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Edited by ArdenCabbel, 15 February 2010 - 04:40 PM.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:17 PM

omg how awful!!!  :cry:

RIP, Shal. :(

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:17 PM

OMG! :( Shal's been around forever, I've "known" her since 2000. I can't believe she's gone. At least she's free of all her pain now, and hopefully with all her cats that she'd lost. She'd like to see them again, I know.

RIP, Shal :heart:.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:22 PM

I'm going to give it a day, and then I'm going to create a lasting memorial, like that of emsparks'. Who knew...who ever thought...that we'd have another one for a dearly departed friend...
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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:26 PM

So very sorry about Shalamar. RIP.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:38 PM

Rest in peace, Shal.


Something has spoken to me in the night, burning the tapers of the waning year;
something has spoken in the night, and told me I shall die, I know not where.
"To lose the earth you know, for greater knowing;
to lose the life you have for greater life;
to leave the friends you loved, for greater loving;
to find a land more kind than home, more large than earth.
Whereon the pillars of this earth are founded..."

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:39 PM

Goodbye Shalamar :(
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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:42 PM

Rest in peace Shalamar :humble:

{{{{{{{{{Rommie, and all Shal's friends and relations}}}}}}}}}}

I liked and respected Shal a great deal - she will be missed :(

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:43 PM

Oh no, I am so sorry to hear this! :( RIP Shal!
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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:46 PM

It's no secret to anyone that Shal and I had our bad moments.  I'm so glad we were both able to put that aside over the past year and tell each other how much we did care about one another.  I am so thankful we had a chance to mend our fences.  I'll love her forever for allowing that to happen between us.

RIP Shal.  I'll never forget you, your dignity, nor your charity of spirit.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:48 PM

View PostRommieSG, on Feb 15 2010, 04:22 PM, said:

I'm going to give it a day, and then I'm going to create a lasting memorial, like that of emsparks'. Who knew...who ever thought...that we'd have another one for a dearly departed friend...

Yes, please...I think we will need that. :(


Thank you for letting us know.  I knew about the illness, but I had been hoping....not this soon. :(

We have all lost someone very special.  Shal always walked in the Light.

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Posted 15 February 2010 - 04:49 PM

If anyone wants to find out more about Shalamar or remember her class and nature, this is her OTer of the week thread (a small bio and question answering session in OT).

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